Care Takers of Loved Ones
Have you ever wondered the weight that care takers carry? Whether it be brain
cancer or a disease of any type-care takers take on a lot. Caretakers do just that "take care". As much as I've seen in my almost 31 years, I can say I've seen caretakers of many loved ones -Alzheimer's patients, post-surgical patients, Physical Therapy patients, and more. I've too, been the caretaker and know the time and patience it requires. But my, when the roles are reversed and you're old enough to see the loved one's care for you hand and foot-it's a beautiful light. One, to know they genuinely care for you, Two, to realize your life is worth living to someone, and Three, to know you are loved flaws, scars and all. Remember your scars of how far you've come. There's no one for all answer. There are illnesses such as mental and emotional which can intervene in one's recovery and can take a toll. Yes, the mind can also go into anxiety overdrive on both sides of the fence- caretaker and patient. There are phases of transitioning into the new life you are called to. More importantly you are never alone! Someone somewhere is praying for you, praying with you, or speaking life over your entire well-being. Below I share some tips in my own experiences and experiences of my own.
And as the caretaker, you must take care of you. For your strength is dependent on the thrive of the ill. Manage self-care.
Learn to Communicate in love-avoid harsh communications, observe your tone, pitch, and voice
Acknowledge your loved one's Limitations-bathing, eating, speaking, and even walking can be a challenge. No matter the task, it’s important to understand these limitations and to still treat them as the person that they are – not as an incompetent patient.
Accept help from your community and village- others around you that genuinely want to help
Be Realistic-It’s important, both as a new caregiver or an experienced one, to be realistic about what your loved one is experiencing – whether it be a memory condition, disease, or the process of aging. Allowing yourself to cope with feelings of sadness is essential – and don’t be afraid to consult a professional for help if you are in need of it.
Learn How to Provide Proper Physical Care- If you are in place connect with your loved ones physician for better care for them
Lastly Remain Organized- consider all legal documents, financial obligations and care preferences, and make sure you’ve spoken to your loved one about them.
Even the strongest of soldiers need to be supported. Take care of you-take care of them and in grace.